Wanting to be enough for someone else is self-abandonment.
Wishing so hard to be recognized will lead to a life of following expectations held by other people who want you to be “this kind of person.” In other words, you throw away who you really are and live other people’s lives.
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga • The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
A people-pleasing mindset insists upon making others happy over respecting ourselves and our limits.
Emily Ballesteros • The Cure For Burnout: Build Better Habits, Find Balance and Reclaim Your Life
So I spent all my energy doing everything for everyone. My insecurities led me to attempt to fulfill everyone’s expectations.
Chip Ingram • True Spirituality
what an insane dynamic to keep being true:
> I spend a lifetime hiding myself, obfuscating my thoughts, trying to pander to what I think people want from me
> It pretty much always blows up in my face, bringing about the exact outcomes I tried to avoid, while also making me feel
River Pilgrimx.comSelf-betrayal becomes a default setting, and they end up giving more than they have, often to the detriment of an inner world that no one else can see.