46. If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
46. If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
don’t be someone you are not just to gain someone’s love. If you do, the person that your loved one is loving is not you. It is the role that you are playing and not your true self who is being loved.
John Townsend • Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
You should just be yourself, not because it will make you more likable (it won’t) but because it's only by being yourself that you'll find people who like you for who you are rather than for who you're pretending to be.