13. People don’t want you to be perfect.
What they want is to feel connected to you.
13. People don’t want you to be perfect. What they want is to feel connected to you.
People at some level have this intrinsic desire to be understood and belong and feel like they belong with the people around them.
Mark Zuckerberg • The Tim Ferriss Show Transcripts: Mark Zuckerberg on Long-Term Strategy, Business and Parenting Principles, Personal Energy Management, Building the Metaverse, Seeking Awe, the Role of Religion, Solving Deep Technical Challenges (e.g., AR), and More (#582)
Any skill or attribute you claim makes you unique—”I’m really funny”, “I’m good at shining shoes”, “I’m an attentive lover”—you can always find someone else better than you on that dimension. They’re funnier, fitter, richer, sexier, smarter, or better at shining shoes than you are. We can’t help but desperately compete in this unwinnable game of ha... See more
billmei.net • Friendships Form via Shared Context, Not Shared Activities
We don’t need people to be perfect; we simply need them to be able to explain the greater part of their inherited imperfections calmly and in good time, before we are enmeshed in the sufferings they can otherwise cause us.
The School of Life • Self-Knowledge (Essay Books)
It is one of those simple but beautiful paradoxes of life: When a person feels that he is truly accepted by another, as he is, then he is freed to move from there and to begin to think about how he wants to change, how we wants to grow, how he can become different, how he might become more of what he is capable of being.
Thomas Gordon • Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
When we fully accept ourselves and do not fear to be seen, connecting with others becomes surprisingly natural. We see the human being within ourselves and in the person across from us, and bond authentically over our shared experiences.
Being happy or unhappy in life comes down to this one thing
One key to a good relationship is to simply accept all the things that annoy you about the other person. Acknowledge them, laugh about them, surrender to them, and once you do, it's so much easier to really love them. But until then, their quirks will just irritate you.