The unspoken belief behind self-improvement is "I'll be worthy when..."
Somewhere along the way, we adopt this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it.
Brené Brown • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Only by being useful or talented, and receiving external recognition, would I achieve personhood. I couldn’t imagine a world where I was a worthwhile person by dint of mere existence; I felt like I needed to earn it and prove it every day.