C. S. Lewis, because love is a risk https://t.co/PwdF1EXL3H
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe,
... See moreTimothy Keller • The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe,
... See moreTimothy Keller • The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
“Love, but be careful what you love,” the Roman African philosopher Saint Augustine wrote in the final years of the fourth century. We are, in some deep sense, what we love — we become it as much as it becomes us, beckoned from our myriad conscious and unconscious longings, despairs, and patterned desires. And yet there is something profoundly para... See more
Maria Popova • Hannah Arendt on Love and How to Live with the Fundamental Fear of Loss
But, as I said before, “the most dangerous thing you can do is to take any one impulse of our own nature and set it up as the thing you ought to follow at all costs.” Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a
... See moreC. S. Lewis • The C. S. Lewis Bible: For Reading, Reflection, and Inspiration
Love, by definition, seeks to enjoy its object. —from The Problem of Pain
C. S. Lewis • The C. S. Lewis Bible: For Reading, Reflection, and Inspiration
When we love we always risk the possibility of loss—by criticism, rejection, separation, and ultimately death—regardless of how hard we try to defend against it. Introducing uncertainty sometimes requires nothing more than letting go of the illusion of certitude. In this shift of perception, we recognize the inherent mystery of our partner.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
There’s no love without vulnerability. There’s no life without fear . And you will no doubt derail romance if you are too risk-averse.