Anxiety also transmits family sins. If a parent did not feel safe as a child and became distrusting of others, fearful of simple behaviors such as flying or driving, or unable to relax or sleep properly, her child is probably susceptible to this same anxiety. One woman, a highly successful screenwriter from Chicago, had so internalized her anxious

I have spent much of my life practicing nonautism, or what my autistic comrades call allism. The stuff of my real self is the stuff of neither reality nor selfhood, because autism supposedly impedes my capacity for knowledge of both self and other.

The desire to fit in and not be shunned by your peers usually wins out over trying to be someone far outside the gender norms. This can result in the splitting off or fragmentation that we mentioned. And sometimes you role-play or act for such a long time that you forget that you are doing it, and it takes well into the process of transition to not