They need to find ways to belong and still be safe.
Anne Berube • The Burnout Antidote
“It is a joy to be hidden, and a disaster not to be found.”
It is a disaster not to be found, a total disaster to not be able to connect with others because we were too preoccupied with ourselves. The whole reason for ironic detachment is to build a protective wall between oneself and the world. We think we’re building a wall, but we’re really holl... See more
It is a disaster not to be found, a total disaster to not be able to connect with others because we were too preoccupied with ourselves. The whole reason for ironic detachment is to build a protective wall between oneself and the world. We think we’re building a wall, but we’re really holl... See more
Catherine Shannon • Everyone Is Numbing Out
Our fear drives us to stay over here in our lonely self-righteousness.
Charlotte J. Beck • Everyday Zen: Love and Work (Plus)
The “distance” we hold is often in direct proportion to how much emotional pain we were exposed to with emotional connections earlier in our lives.
Angelo Dilullo • Awake: It's Your Turn
“No one cares. I’m all alone. There is no help. I have to do it all myself.” They believe that the only safe attitude, then, is to stay guarded and suspicious, and the only safe action is to stay in control of everything and one-up on everyone around them.