Put the other way around, nothing is scarier to humans than isolation. Isolated people have not only their physical security threatened, but their mental security as well. Because instinctively, we are well aware that we cannot live alone. As a consequence, we are always longing for a strong “connection” with other people. … Do you understand what
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Many cannot bear it, and so they flee from it, hardening their hearts, seeking refuge in pride or nihilism.
shame is the fear of disconnection.
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The result is isolation, where we avoid others out of worry about being exposed.
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We live our lives in avoidance of those places and risks which might lead to our rejection, pre-emptively excluding ourselves, then suffering the same loneliness as if the rejection had come from the outside.