Sometimes the reason you can’t find people you resonate with is because you misread the ones you meet

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.

—Marcel Proust

A person can’t be contained in your ideas about them. This was a core idea for us. To whatever extent I assumed I knew who Johanna was, I treated her as something that I could fit in my head — as something smaller than me. But she couldn’t fit in my head, nor I in hers: that was the exciting thing about it. You can only ever know another individual... See more