Work without Stress: Building a Resilient Mindset for Lasting Success

When you catch yourself thinking about something, stop and ask yourself, “Am I reflecting in a positive or neutral way, or am I ruminating and making myself stressed?”

The appropriate response isn’t, “You idiot, what did you do that for?” but rather, “If you behave like that, it will upset people, so try not to do it again.”

5. Clarify who actually owns the problem.

A phrase that is commonly used to mask blame is constructive criticism, but criticism is never constructive.

Acknowledge that you can do anything in a mechanical, automated way, or you can be awake and aware of what you’re doing. This brings you out of waking sleep, and it is also what will bring you out of stress.

The way to start doing that is to follow a simple principle: don’t give people anything to ruminate about.

4 Ps that people want to know during any change:

3. Scratch the rumination record.

4. Turn rumination into reflection.