wondering what the “right thing” is, what your boss or colleague or whoever might think, instead of focusing on getting your work done or hanging out with your family. It eats up our minds, and it saps our energy.

Be savvy—delegate, self-promote, and learn when to say no, and yes, strategically.

sympathize.

Most of us want to work—but on our terms, in ways that make it possible to have a life as well.

“We need to be productive and efficient. And working flexibly and being flexible is free—in many ways it’s priceless.”

But we’ve also achieved a certain amount of wisdom from our years in the testosterone jungle—wisdom about what works for us and what doesn’t.

The powerful collision of two simple realities: a majority of women are demanding new rules of engagement at the very moment we’ve become the hot commodity in today’s workplace.

Fully 61 percent said flexible work arrangements were critical to continuing to work at the company.

We know the solution isn’t longer hours at day care or hiring more babysitters or asking our husbands to stay home. Because we’re the ones who want more time—for our children, our parents, our communities, ourselves.