How much of the way you work is about satisfying your ego?

“I see a lot of women being what we call ‘detail-oriented’ and making sure that all the words on the paper are right, when a guy of similar seniority will not focus so much on the words but sit around thinking about bigger issues in a deal and trying to think outside the box, and doing all of that creative stuff.

In fact we suggest a trial period where you make a conscious habit of NOT doing things as well as you usually do—and even then we bet you’ll still be good and not just mediocre.

wondering what the “right thing” is, what your boss or colleague or whoever might think, instead of focusing on getting your work done or hanging out with your family. It eats up our minds, and it saps our energy.

Watch your “youngers.” They won’t work any other way.

women have a style of management that is more open and more inclusive than that of the other sex. We are more likely to encourage participation in meetings, and we tend to be more nurturing of subordinates. We prefer consensus to confrontation and empathy over ego.

We don’t want to quit—far from it—but time has become our new currency.

The rush of confidence and even the slightly otherworldly sense of well-being that arrives after a decisive no moment comes in part from the knowledge that you won’t have to cram a round-peg assignment into the square hole of your schedule. But also, that feeling of calm mixed with pride is a feeling of moving forward as a person, of having grown a

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