Women With Attention Deficit Disorder

People with AD/HD need high levels of stimulation in order to focus. The brain’s neurotransmitters, those information messengers, aren’t functioning efficiently or consistently. It is during these routine tasks without any high stimulation that one becomes day-dreamy, unfocused, and unproductive.

Because of this she may push people away instead of setting limits that actually would allow her to grow closer to people, a goal which is often her true desire.

It particularly feels like a trap when a woman has worked hard to achieve excellence in her field only to have to either “do lunch” badly or else refuse these social occasions and be thought of as a snob or a little weird.

As we discussed earlier, many people just fall off your radar screen. Why not make big list of all the people in your life you want to remember? This goes beyond a list of people’s birthdays. I’m talking about just remembering their existence on a frequent basis. Brainstorm all the people you want to remember who are important to you in some way an

These kinds of obligations seem to take on an aspect of religious devotion; failure to give selflessly to others almost carries the weight of a sin.

The goal for you, and what is critical in order to restructure your life, is to truly enjoy the kind of woman you are even if you don’t fit a traditional mold.

Many people have difficulty figuring out what the next step in a task or project should be or how to plan. They may look at the whole picture but don’t know how to proceed with a job. They just can’t figure out a good plan of attack (executive functioning problems).

Women with AD/HD feel such an energy drain just trying to keep their lives together. Because they feel so different from others, even if they do begin to form a relationship, they soon begin to feel misunderstood.

She feels a need to protect herself, both from bombarding stimulation as well as from feeling wounds to her vulnerable self-image that she has developed. She does this through hiding and separating from relationships.