Women like men too much
“It’s not singlehood, dear friend, that hurts; it’s not casual sex, the fluidity of our bonds, nor their ephemeral nature that causes pain.” Rather, it’s the way that power operates in relationships. Desire isn’t a spontaneous, apolitical passion; it’s shaped by the world around us, and by what we’ve been taught to value. Romance operates like a ma... See more
Hannah Giorgis • Why Does Romance Now Feel Like Work?
Looking for love sounds more like chasing the high of an extreme sport, trust falling with someone you don’t really know like that. It demands exacting reciprocity, extreme vulnerability. It brings out people’s basest and most primal instincts and a frightening desire to merge into someone else. When the girlies on TikTok talk about dating, they ra... See more
How can any girl sustain the belief that she is loved, truly loved, when all around her she sees that femaleness is despised?
Bell Hooks • Communion
Love, like desire, is only legitimate when it’s uncoerced and unobligated. Men believe in love for the sake of love, women love opportunistically. It’s not that either subscribe to unconditional love, it’s that both gender’s conditions for love differ.
Rollo Tomassi • The Rational Male
The men who like women and the men who don't. Yes we can tell.
Celeste Daviscelestemdavis.substack.com
I even started to wonder whether men and women considered each other friends, or if we automatically compartmentalized our relationships: We’re either lovers or we’re platonic friends, but not both. Truth be told, the comments I heard made me wonder—despite all the emphatic “I love men” and “I love women” declarations—whether men and women really e
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