Why Having a Wedding Makes Sense

The more logical solution would be to take a small number of guests out to nice dinners to celebrate your marriage, so you could actually enjoy the extended company of those loved ones. Not only would you be able to celebrate your marriage in a way that only this particular set of loved ones can offer, but you’d also probably save a lot of money as... See more

(a) How do you communicate your frustrations to one another?

These irrational norms have resulted in today’s wedding industrial complex, a staggering $70 billion industry full of event planners, DJs, food caterers, photographers, etc. that can be hired to build the infrastructure of your dream day. Greedy corporations have gamed our desire for social status, and have successfully disguised weddings to be rat... See more

Weddings seemed like an antiquated rite of passage, implanted into the mainstream consciousness by greedy corporate interests. Through our need for social approval, this manmade ritual became the ultimate status symbol, being conducted by couples across the world to satisfy the expectations of parents, friends, and society in general.

Even though I intuitively felt like the wedding was great, I wanted to give some time to reflect on it because sadly, our memories aren’t as reliable as we’d like them to be. You see, when you experience a blend of events all at once, the mind has this tricky tendency to pick a few emotionally charged moments, and have them define your memory of th... See more

Reason #1: You officially become a significant investment in everyone’s Happiness Portfolio

All of us have one, but the contents vary. Inside this portfolio is a mixed bag of loved ones, work endeavors, and interests that we invest our precious time into. This is akin to the individual companies people invest in when building their stock portfolios, but I’d argue that the Happiness Portfolio is way more consequential. Successful stock inv... See more

My perspective on having a wedding shifted from “Why the hell are we doing this absolutely irrational thing; no one should do this” to “Wow, that was an absolutely important thing for us to do; everyone should do it” almost instantaneously, and this view hasn’t faded away since.

But, here I am today, writing a post about why having a wedding makes sense. Actually, not only does it make sense, I think it’s one of the most valuable and illuminating experiences you can possibly have with your partner.