Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The No 1 Sunday Times Bestseller 2022

whole, unprocessed food, healthy fats and wholegrains.

That is why we need to get practised at breaking it down. When we do that we can more easily see what changes we could make.

feel able to express their needs and feelings, while maintaining the capacity for some independence.

Self-esteem cannot be relied on when it is contingent on being a ‘success’.

The way you feel also influences the types of thoughts that can pop into your head, making you more vulnerable to experiencing thoughts that are negative and self-critical.

What would that look like? What would you do differently? What would you say yes to? What would you say no to? What would you work harder on? What would you let go of? How would you speak to yourself? How would you speak to others?

Those who feel socially anxious tend to focus their attention more on how they are being perceived by those around them (Clark & Wells, 1995). But those who feel more confident tend to have a more outward focus of attention, leading with a curiosity for other people.

Shared meaning and values:

Be honest with yourself while also offering unconditional love and support.

quality of their friendship.