even emma chamberlain has spoken about having to disconnect from everything she built in order to figure out who she really was. the point isn’t that reinvention is glamorous. it’s that the people we admire most often had to lose themselves first.

sometimes the most important thing we can do is let ourselves stay blurry. to be unbranded, unpositioned, undone for a while. because real self-knowledge is a slow, unmarketable process. and the lost feeling might just be the first sign that you’ve finally stopped performing someone else’s idea of a good life.

you stop measuring your worth by momentum. you start finding joy in the mundane. you fall in love with your actual life, not the one you perform.