why are we lying to young people about work?

And to extend this: I see people online constantly lamenting that they can't make or keep friends in adulthood, as if friendship is something that just happens to you rather than something you actively create. This, too, requires intentional effort. Want to get invited to dinner parties? Start throwing them. Menu planning, grocery runs, washing dis... See more

Consider the parents who will tell you, with tears in their eyes, that having children is the most meaningful thing they've ever done. Ask these same people about sleepless nights with colicky babies, teenage rebellion, college tuition anxiety, or the daily negotiations over screen time and vegetables. They won't deny the work... they'll tell you i... See more

Good work should do at least one of these things: fund the life you actually want to live, align with values you can defend at dinner parties, surround you with people who challenge you to grow, or teach you skills that compound like interest over decades. Great work does several of these at once.

The marketing coordinator position at a healthcare startup might not set your soul on fire, but it could teach you about digital strategy, introduce you to fascinating people building something meaningful, and fund your weekend rock climbing adventures. Your first job out of college doesn't need to carry the weight of your entire identity! It just ... See more