PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU PAY ATTENTION TO

This is why the influencer dream is so seductive and so dangerous. It promises intensity without consistency, passion without discipline, reward without work. It's the lottery ticket approach to career planning, and like most lottery tickets, it's a tax on not understanding probability.

Everything worth having lives on the other side of effort.

Everything good requires tending. Everything beautiful demands maintenance.

The people who understand this most deeply are often the happiest, because they've made peace with the beautiful burden of nurturing. They know that the dishes exist because they've been eating good meals all week. ... See more

Motivation is weather: changeable, unpredictable, often absent when you need it most. Discipline is climate: the steady, reliable conditions you create for yourself regardless of how you feel on any given day.

Life is modular, not linear. You don't choose a career at twenty-two and stick with it for forty years like some kind of professional arranged marriage. Instead of hunting for the mythical perfect tree, follow your curiosity. What ideas make you pause while scrolling? What conversations do you find yourself returning to days later? When a friend me... See more

Instead of asking children what their dream job is, we should be asking different questions entirely!

What kind of life do you want to build? What values do you want your work to reflect? What skills do you want to develop? How do you want to contribute to the world around you? What kind of people do you want to work alongside?

And then:

What are yo... See more

Your first job out of college doesn't need to carry the weight of your entire identity! It just needs to teach you something and pay your rent.

What kind of life do you want to build? What values do you want your work to reflect? What skills do you want to develop? How do you want to contribute to the world around you? What kind of people do you want to work alongside?

And then:

What are you willing to sacrifice for those things? What discomfort are you willing to endure? What would make yo... See more

We owe young people the truth: hard work isn't the tax you pay for living, it's the tuition for a life worth having. Everything good requires work. Discipline trumps motivation. Meaning emerges not from avoiding struggle but from choosing struggle that serves something larger than yourself.

The dishes will always need doing.

The question is whether ... See more