What is Glazing?
Like girls, boys openly express their desire for genuine connections with others, including with boys. They reveal the human capacity for mutual understanding, care, and empathy and demonstrate remarkably astute abilities to read the human world. Yet as they reach middle to late adolescence and as expectations of manhood intensify, they begin to ex... See more
One of the things that happens as boys are growing up is they learn about a very restrictive version of masculinity, a list of things that you’re not allowed to do or say. Particularly around emotions: You’re allowed to be angry, and you might be able to cry if something’s really bad — like a sports team you’re on loses a really important game, or ... See more
Keren Landman • How to talk to boys so they grow into better men
As one man put it, “Especially now when the worst forms of masculinity feel ascendant, there are a lot of types of man I don't want to be, but very few visions of positive masculinity that I see and want to emulate.
Ann Friedman • A More Expansive Masculinity
I started wondering, who's offering a compelling alternative ideal of masculinity? I texted my friend Thomas Page McBee, who has written two books about becoming a man. He pointed out (in the least ’splainy way possible!) that I was asking the wrong question. Feminism, he replied, has helped women divest from the idea that there is a monolithic way
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“The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love — whether we call it friendship or family or romance — is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light. Gentle work. Steadfast work. Life-saving work in those moments when life and shame and sorrow occlude our own light from our view, but there is still a clear-eyed loving person to b... See more
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As poet Brandon Wint wrote in a much-quoted social media post several years ago, “Not queer like gay; queer like escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness all at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like, and to pursue it.”