In love, I recently realized that the thing I value most is emotional connection. Connection is of course ineffable, and for a long time my lack of vocabulary prevented me from understanding how much I needed it. It’s that warm, fluid feeling, that sense of boundarylessness between two people, the possibility of total understanding. I care about a... See more

Here are some scripted AIM prompts you can use to guide a conversation and get clear about your relationship without teaching the method first: Intentions: I’d like to feel like I know what you want out of our time together. I’ve been wondering if our expectations match up at this point. I enjoy spending time with you, and I want to feel like we

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Every email exchange about scheduling is also a micro-negotiation about value, importance, and mutual respect for each other's time.