“I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be,” said Cary Grant, “until finally I became that person. Or he became me.”

But maybe this is who he really is, maybe we go through life never actually being ourselves, mostly never being ourselves. Maybe we spend most of our decades being someone else, avoiding ourselves, maybe a man is only himself, his true self, for a few days in his entire life.

I mean, you can only pretend to be something for so long before you become it.