Neuroconformity is a term coined by the physician Dr. Dave Saunders in April 2022: X.com/​drdevonprice/​status/​1513693021325434886.

Engagement is the polar opposite of overwhelmed, self-doubting passivity.

You’ll notice that every single one of these supposed social skills targets how the Autistic person treats someone else, or how they make someone else feel—there is no consideration of how the Autistic person feels, or the skills they might need to advocate for themself.

What does it mean to really accept change? It begins by trying something new and acknowledging that we might feel uncomfortable, crave more information, or wish to have greater control over what will happen—but then persisting in doing the unfamiliar thing anyway.

Identify conflicting perspectives. Your needs might not be compatible with another person’s. That does not mean your needs should be erased. Conflict is sometimes necessary when two people’s perspectives are hard to reconcile.

These were things I had always craved doing but had feared would make me seem pathetic, childish, or attention-seeking.

We can’t really help it: our unique, bottom-up processing style and tendency to take nothing for granted mean that we see the world from a different angle than most.

Loss and change are inevitabilities in life, however.

Engaging in discussion or conflict is useful when another person respects us, values our well-being, and is open to changing their mind, but when it comes to immovable people or the opinions of strangers, we have to be able to tolerate the distress of rifts that can’t ever be mended.