Unf*ck Yourself

Here’s the thing: Future you is not going to regret a lack of achievement or the absence of any one thing in your life. The only thing you will regret is not trying. Not pushing through when the going got tough.

It all starts by making a conscious choice to talk in a way that’s helpful rather than harmful. By using the right kind of language and framing our problems in a more readily accessible light, we can quite literally change the way we see and interact with the world. All that stuff you’ve heard and read about “creating your own reality?” It’s not on

You may look at successful people and think they’ve always had it figured out. Many of them seem to have a kind of confidence, charisma, or talent that makes everything they do seem easy. They certainly seem to have something you don’t, but believe me, their rise to the top was anything but certain or easy. Most of them doubted it every single day,

“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” —Carl Jung

You’re not bashing your fist against a brick wall until it’s bloody and bruised. You’re using your hammer and chisel to slowly, methodically chip away at it, piece by piece, until eventually there’s a hole.

Life can be like that at times. On some occasions you have to realize that the game has changed (sometimes dramatically so) and you need to pivot. Deal with your reality. Wake up, you’re in the water. Stop waving your arms about and paddle to shore dammit!

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation—in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation—then, whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.

“Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great.” —Niccolò Machiavelli

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”