The practice of being judgment-free builds our capacity to fully accept ourselves as human.

These type-related beliefs are the central operating principles that shape who we think we are and how we respond to life. Unfortunately, the patterns that stem from these inaccurate core beliefs feel like reality to us when, in fact, they are self-limiting habits that perpetuate a myth. They are giving us a false sense of what is actually true.

unconscious filters that only accept supporting information. Regrettably, that means these filters miss and dismiss data that would otherwise provide alternative perspectives. Information that doesn’t fit our core belief patterns is subliminally discarded.

Inner Critic Message: “You are responsible for making sure everyone gets along and feels happy. Don’t blow it!” Resulting Thought: “If I express my real opinion on this topic, it will start a huge argument. I don’t want to rock the boat, so I won’t say anything.”

Here’s an example:

All of our conscious focus tends to be reserved for the world around us rather than for what’s going on inside of us. The unfortunate consequence of this imbalance in focus is that we may not really know who we are below the surface. And whether we acknowledge it or not, that lack of knowing creates inner friction.

Feedback from other people plays a role in shaping our personalities as well.

deciphering the invisible rules of our ego codes is to see what we focus on in our lives. What’s getting our time and attention?

Learning to edit the ego code’s inner rules and logic can give us the freedom to use new approaches that honor who we are at our core. Here’s what that might look like using the previous example: