Unattached: Empowering Essays on Singlehood

It’s possible to stop giving so much of your energy to dating and still meet someone anyway.

the amount of time we’ll be single. But we’re allowed to recognise that those two things aren’t correlated at all. Relationships happen, love happens. We can’t control, plan or cause these things with all of our toiling away in the dating space.

allowed stories of how people met to broaden our minds? What if these stories served as reminders of the infinite number of ways people meet and fall in love?

because I lived alone, had money to spend and always demanded what I wanted.

What makes non-sexual intimate relationships so great is that they don’t have the labels and expectations that society places on other relationships. You can map and feel your way through a friendship as you please without turning it into a performance. Nobody is pressuring you into making colossal life choices together, and you don’t have to follo

I know that putting less effort into dating sounds terrifying, because we associate that reduction in effort with an increase in

Don’t wish away your single years to keep up with a generation of Instagram brides and cookie-cutter timelines.

have stuff to do; not getting annoyed when they say they don’t want a dessert and then eat yours; letting go the fact that they didn’t sweep the floor when they said they would sweep the floor.

The secret is building on your internal strength, so that