Tunneling for Sunlight: Twenty-One Maxims of Living Wisdom from Buddhism and Japanese Psychology to Cope with Difficult Times
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Tunneling for Sunlight: Twenty-One Maxims of Living Wisdom from Buddhism and Japanese Psychology to Cope with Difficult Times
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The maxim, “I Get to . . .” is the antidote to living a reluctant life. I get to walk the dog. I get to wash the dishes. I get to go to the supermarket for food. The phrase I Get to implies that it is a privilege to do such activities – a blessing.
These are the times when you have to see your life as your practice. Whatever comes up, that’s your practice. If you feel like life is crushing you and you think, “I don’t want to use this as practice – I’m being crushed.” Then working with that thought, that experience, is your practice.
The haiku poet, Issa, represents this profound experience in one of his most famous poems: The world of dew is the world of dew. And yet, and yet … He wrote this poem after the funeral of his baby daughter.
We must learn to approach what we have an aversion to. We must learn to attend to what makes us uncomfortable. We need not avoid what we don’t like, simply because we don’t like it. The first thing to know is that it’s possible to act while having feelings of fear, anxiety, boredom, shyness, disinterest, frustration or any other feeling which
... See moreOkagesama is the recognition of these forces that are hidden in the shadow of our lives. Self-reflection allows us to see inside the walls and under the skin of our day-to-day existence. We become aware of how we are supported, cared for, and loved even as we send an email, drink a cup of coffee, or take a shower.
There’s a Japanese word, okagesama, which is often used conversationally to express thanks. The root of this word, kage, means “shadow.” It acknowledges that there are unseen forces in this world which make our life possible.
The Japanese psychiatrist, Shoma Morita, asked us to embrace the concept of Arugamama – meaning to “accept things as they are.” Acceptance is the alternative to control.
These are the elements of our life that are in the shadow, so to see them, we have to look very deeply at our life. We have to see with more than just our eyes.
Surrender to the music—whatever happens to be playing at the moment. Dance your way through life.