A checklist for people in a relationship in transition: 1. Take your time. The outer forms of our lives can change in an instant, but the inner reorientation that brings us back into a vital relation to people and activity takes time. This

important transitions that is likely to take place in a person’s work life sometime after the age of forty: the transition from being motivated by the chance to demonstrate competence to being motivated by the chance to find personal meaning in the work and its results. It is the shift from the question of how to the question of why. The work world

Changes that are so deep and far-reaching are unlikely to disappear with time.

most of us think we ought to take charge of our lives and plan carefully when we’re trying to start again after an ending. As we shall see later, most of us do that prematurely, for our most important beginnings take place in the darkness outside our awareness.

It is the transition process rather than a thing called “a midlife transition” that we must understand.

And in the process, he learned the fourth important thing to remember in making a beginning, which is to shift your purpose from the goal to the process of reaching the goal.

What would you write about yourself?

Frustrating though it is, the best advice is to opt for the turtle and forget the hare. At the same time, do keep moving.

For “what to do” consists not of ways out but of ways in; that is, it involves ways of amplifying and making more real the essential neutral-zone experience. The way in is the way out, as it happens.