What people present to the world is a tiny fraction of what’s going on inside their head.

Brackett reports that when you ask people in public where they are on the mood meter, almost everybody will say they are having positive emotions. When you ask people in confidential surveys where they are, 60 to 70 percent will put themselves on the negative-emotion side of the mood meter. That result is haunting, because it suggests that many of

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You keep showing up in your full self, thinking that people see your layers , your heart , your contradictions . You think your intention is obvious. You think your silences are eloquent . You think your love is visible . But people aren’t watching that closely. They fill in the gaps with their own stories. They decide what your laugh means. They... See more