
Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your
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It’s not a coincidence that you describe your pain as being lodged in your chest. When you breathe with calm intention you’re zapping the white rage monster precisely where it lives. You’re cutting off its feeding tube and forcing a new thought into your head—one that nurtures rather than tortures you. It’s essentially mental self-discipline. I’m n
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But you know what unsettles me the most? This business about your lover being the only one who has “KNOWN” you in a “spiritual, sacred way,” coupled with your conviction that you will “never find this again and thus” you stay. Find what, pray tell? A sexually and emotionally withholding lover who is terrified of commitment and intimacy?
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
You cannot convince people to love you.
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light.
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Don’t focus on the short-term
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Don’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do. Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay. Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you should fight.
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
A perfect couple is a wholly private thing. No one but the two people in the perfect relationship know for certain whether they’re in one. Its only defining quality is that it’s composed of two people who feel perfectly right about sharing their lives with each other, even during the hard times.
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
It’s what most of us have to give a few times over the course of our lives: to love with a mindfully clear sense of purpose, even when it feels outrageous to do so. Even when you’d rather put on your steel-toed boots and scream.