That's why it is especially important that you enter into The Talk determined that this is not a time for anger, judgment, condescension, correction, or reprimand. Place your entire focus on encouraging, informing, and building a close relationship with your son. At various points in The Talk you will have to bring up areas where your son may be pr

CHAPTER 9 QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSING SEX

1. "What does God think about us having sex?" "Does he want us to be sexually active?"




2. "What is the difference between having sex and making love?"




3. "What role do the character traits of humility, courage, purity, faithfulness, selflessness, and self-control play in our decisions ab

CHAPTER 5 REVIEW

1. In most cases The Talk should be initiated when your son age ten or eleven.




2. When first initiating The Talk don't be surprised if your son's answers are not forthright. For most fathers this will be the first time you have had such a frank discussion with your son.




3. Your goals for The Talk should include:

• Changing relational gears to b

CHAPTER 1 REVIEW

1. If you hope to build a strong and lasting relationship with your son, you will have to change. It is time to begin the transition from the "command-and-order" mode to one of "friend-and-counselor."




2. The Talk should be seen as more than a single conversation. The over-arching goal of The Talk is that it opens a door

Purity To pursue moral purity means choosing to live by the highest moral principles in both speech and physical relations, despite your own desires to do otherwise, and despite any external pressure to compromise.

Self-control To pursue self-control means maintaining full presence of mind in all situations and circumstances, and choosing to exercise restraint despite your desire or tendency to do otherwise.

How to Use This Book The Talk should be a series of personal conversations with your son, and this book has been written to help you make those conversations most profitable. In that light, it is important from the outset that you understand how this book can best be used.

Here is a simple ten-step process for you to follow:

1. Read this book from cover

Six Key Virtues for Men These six virtues are spiritual fruit, closely and directly associated with being like God in true righteousness and holiness. The more we become like God, the more these virtues will be evident in us. For each virtue there is a short definition and a few verses for emphasis and elaboration. Paying close attention to these v

Your young man needs convictions and they can't come from you. Convictions come from hearing the voice of the Lord. They come from having a holy fear of God and knowing in your heart of hearts his will for you. Convictions allow a man to steady his walk in order to stay on the narrow road that leads to life.

To be able to hear the voice of the Lord,