Time for the Talk

What Does a Real Man Look Like?

Now make special note of the fact that while every male will have the physical features just discussed, few boys will ever become men in the biblical sense of the word. Biblically, being a man has to do with humility, courage, purity, faithfulness, selflessness, and self-control, as we saw in chapter 4.

As your son grows he will gain strength physically. He will gain new abilities, new desires, and a greater determination to carry out his own will. He will grow stronger in his mental and verbal capacities, in his social skills, and in his overall ability to interact effectively with the world. This is what it means for him to mature as a male. To

Questions Are Good At every point in the conversation, give him the liberty to ask questions. The Talk must be a two-way street. Your willingness to hear anything your son might want to say will help show him you are serious about this. If he is like most young men, he will be shy at first about speaking his mind. So, especially at the beginning, p

CHAPTER 10 QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSING PERVERSIONS

1. "What do you think it means to be perverted?" "How does the Bible explain perversion?"




2. "What is the difference between a sexual pervert's sin and your own sin?" There is no difference; the penalty for sin is death. The only difference between one sinner and the next is the

Despite our shortcomings as fathers, or the sins that our sons might willingly walk into along the way, we can pray for our sons even as the apostle Paul prayed for his children in Christ, the Philippians.

I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from

CHAPTER 4 REVIEW

1. Your son's spiritual victories will have the same origin as every one of your spiritual victories. He must learn to trust solely in the finished work of Jesus Christ. Without a relationship with Christ it is impossible to walk in the holiness required to be the man God has called him to be.




2. Scripturally, a real man is humble, courage

Faithfulness To pursue faithfulness means acting in integrity, keeping your word, and doing what is right before God, with fortitude and without complaint, because you trust God to give you the ability to complete all he has given you to do.

CHAPTER 13 QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSING WORK

1. Name three ways that God has gifted you?




2. "What careers would you say those gifts might be effectively used in?"




3. "If you could pick any career you wanted today, what would you choose?"




4. "Is the concept of working more of a joy or a dread to you?" "Do you think God created us for

In your first set of questions (remember, this is before The Talk officially begins), here are some points you should make clear to your son:

• If he hasn't experienced all these things yet, they're on the way

• These changes continue for a number of years

• Every boy experiences these changes as they get older

• Your son can come talk to you about the