Ready ... Set... Go

With these things in place, you're ready to go. Many fathers find that getting started can be the most difficult part. What do you say? Where do you begin?

First of all, relax. You can't put your son at ease if you're not at ease yourself. This means being genuine. Resist any temptation you may have to try to relate to your son as

That's why it is especially important that you enter into The Talk determined that this is not a time for anger, judgment, condescension, correction, or reprimand. Place your entire focus on encouraging, informing, and building a close relationship with your son. At various points in The Talk you will have to bring up areas where your son may be

CHAPTER 1 REVIEW

1. If you hope to build a strong and lasting relationship with your son, you will have to change. It is time to begin the transition from the "command-and-order" mode to one of "friend-and-counselor."




2. The Talk should be seen as more than a single conversation. The over-arching goal of The Talk is that it opens a door to a deep and

It's the same for your son. Where he allows his mind to wander is of great importance. Yet he may have never once made a clear connection between his thoughts and his actions. One of my sons was convinced that what he saw on television or the internet would not affect him. This thought-action connection can be a very difficult concept for young men

Despite our shortcomings as fathers, or the sins that our sons might willingly walk into along the way, we can pray for our sons even as the apostle Paul prayed for his children in Christ, the Philippians.

I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from

Self-control To pursue self-control means maintaining full presence of mind in all situations and circumstances, and choosing to exercise restraint despite your desire or tendency to do otherwise.

Create Anticipation It has always encouraged my sons when I acknowledge they're becoming young men. So talk up The Talk. Let your son know that you are going to be makiìng time for the two of you to discuss manhood.

A month or so before the event, let your son know in a general way that in four or five Saturdays you will be spending the day with

CHAPTER 7 ANATOMY QUESTIONS

1. "God has called you to battle. He has called you to manhood. As a man he has called you to honor him in your relations with women. Are you able to answer his call?"




2. "God gives us outward signs when a boy is beginning to become a man, things like body hair, body odor, growth spurts, and bigger muscles. Have you noticed any

CHAPTER 3 REVIEW

1. So that Adam would honorably represent God in the world, God called him to apply himself in four areas: his work, his sexual activity, his leadership in the home, and his obedience to God's law. God's call to you and your son is the same.




2. Man's first duty before the fall was to work-working and caring for the things God put before