This Is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.

If you can pay attention every single time you are hit or stung with feeling, when you feel that weight suddenly fall inside your chest—“Oh. I forgot. I can’t sing, I’m not good at it”—stop and examine it. Did you put that there? Who did?

But trying to feel confident will actually make you anxious. Because you will never experience one instant of confidence in your lifetime. Instead of even thinking about confidence, what you need to do is focus on exactly what’s happening in the instant. Not even the whole moment; the instant at hand. Only when you are not mentally elsewhere can yo

As it happens, we human beings are able to live just fine with many holes of many sizes and shapes. And pleasure, love, compassion, fulfillment—these things do not leak out of holes of any size. So we can be filled with holes and loss and wide expanses of unhealed geography—and we can also be excited by life and in love and content at the exact sam

In case of emergency, break glass.

Limits hold you back. They confine you. They prevent you from doing what you want to do. Limits stop you from living a life without limits. Of course, this is only an illusion. What limits really do is give you an acceptable excuse to avoid doing something.

But believing something is true, even with all your heart, is unrelated to whether or not what you believe is true. While there are some things from which you never heal, so be it. The truth about healing is that you don’t need to heal to be whole. By whole, I mean damaged, missing pieces of who you were, your heart—missing what feels like some of

You can train your eye to identify shame by looking for statements or actions that imply a caste system—“It figures you would like that movie,” or disgust—“Okay, I think I’ve heard enough about your weekend for one morning.”

To be successful at not drinking, a person needs to occupy the space in life drinking once filled with something more rewarding than the comfort and escape of alcohol. This is the thing you have to find. You might not. Most alcoholics won’t.

Shame is also a covert and effective bullying method.