things that take time

There are necessary developmental thresholds someone has to pass through, and there's no real salve or proxy for it. You can give advice from a vantage point of wisdom, but someone has to go through the experience in order to internalize the lesson. Transformation occurs through multiple collisions with reality. Almost everything that holds meaning

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Almost everything that holds meaning, weight, and gravity, cannot be reached by a shortcut, by sheer force alone. But by acceptance. Acceptance that what you desire for can survive contact with the world, and will yield meaning. You have to devote the time it takes to inhabit the world, chip away at its interior. No one can break the shell for you!

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but writing, in many ways, is my slowest story.

It turned out that it wasn’t about ‘knowing what to do’2, but something else, something intrinsically unnameable, fundamentally untrackable. I knew that I hadn’t made the shift happen, other than by showing up, day after day, and trying to open to the whole weird mess of feeling and desire, experience, instinct and memory.

real wisdom is usually not frictionless. It’s hard to seek out, hard to understand, and something that reveals itself in time. However, if you do have a habit of getting cozy with this type of content, you’re not alone. Three things that will change your life, though:

1. Wrestle with ideas before saving them for later


2. If an idea is truly indispensable,

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