The Way You Wanted to Feel
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read: (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
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Parents have long been sold a model of childrearing that simply doesn’t work. From reward charts to time outs, many popular parenting approaches are based on shaping behavior, not raising humans. These techniques don’t build the skills kids need for life, or account for their complex emotional needs. Add to that parents’ complicated relationships... See more
Becky Kennedy • Good Inside
improve your skills for taking care of yourself, evaluate the way you were parented, and discover ways to heal from the uneven parenting in your family of origin.
Connie Dawson • Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children
What I need, now and forever, is to be the person who loves and cares for myself most reliably. I’ve always known that my parents love me, my friends love me. But I also knew that I was the only one who understood myself fully—I was the only person who knew my own dreams, secrets, failings, all the dark spots and all the cracks of light. I... See more
Ava • deep work
Winnicott’s crucial insight was that the parents’ agony was coming from a particular place: excessive hope. Their despair was a consequence of a cruel and counterproductive perfectionism. To help them reduce this, Winnicott developed a charming phrase: ‘the good enough parent’. No child, he insisted, needs an ideal parent. They just need an OK,
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