seem to come back to the same challenges, but I’m at a slightly higher level each time.’ YES. He’s so right.

When we talk to our friends about how things are going with a new boy/girlfriend, we’ll list the ‘wins’. Well, he/she wants to be exclusive, he/she asked me to meet the family. Ooh, good signs, our friends will say. Ding, ding, ding! Smashing it. I do this, all the twatting time. I catch myself, mid-win-list. Ohhhh.

those aged 39.’

coffee; I now let decisions percolate.

When I’m feeling low, or insecure, or ill-at-ease as a human, I simply don’t date.

You can’t begin to heal until you cease all communication. Using communication with your ex to try to mend yourself is exactly like drinking wine to cure a hangover.

‘I have five more years before I

panic’, if that gives you some headspace, some breathing room, then do that.

nature. With dogs. With yourself. And yes, you can also have a relationship with a man, but if it’s going to be a shitty one, it’s better to have a relationship with your flowers.’