when women are drunk, they hurt themselves by having casual-sex-they-don’t-actually-want,

SALMA HAYEK ‘It’s nice to have a relationship, but women have become addicted. You can have a relationship with God. With

I read myself sober, and I read myself happily single. When you learn about something, and learn new ways of thinking about it, you are literally changing your brain and laying down new neural pathways, just as you do when you learn a new language. In the next few chapters, I’m going to share everything useful I learned in my year’s sabbatical.

wonder how many men think they’re frightened of commitment, simply because they’ve been told over and over that they’re going to hate

You’re not broken, there’s nothing wrong with you, or me, but thinking that there is something wrong is merely an inescapable part of the human experience.

Mindfulness is all about living in the moment, seeing what is happening right then and there, rather than future-tripping and freaking yourself the fack out about what might happen. And that helps me stay sane. So I guess this is mindful dating.

Heartbreak is an energy source. You can harness it to do things you never thought possible.

becomes an addiction, he says. ‘It can stop being a pleasurable choice, and become an addictive urge. This tends to happen when a person feels an emotional lack, say if they’re lonely, or they have a fear of abandonment. This means they’re more prone to hook on a person like a drug, as a replacement for that empty feeling.’

Tinderbox relationships are fast to whoosh! up into flame, but also quick to burn out.