The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
If she’s neglecting herself physically, spiritually, or emotionally, then she’s not bringing the best version of herself to the relationship. Worse, poor self-care can snowball into all kinds of physical and emotional problems that could have easily been avoided.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
People are more receptive to shared responsibility and requests for help than they are to accepting full blame.)
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Ability, willingness, and a masculine nature. If you possess these traits, then you possess what most women seek in a husband or partner.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Splitting poses a special threat to your happiness and your resources. If she casts you in the role of villain whenever you disappoint her, imagine how she’ll treat you during the inevitable breakup or divorce.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
If you want to minimize the chances of romantic disasters, one of your best hedges is unapologetic honesty about who you are and where you’re going in life.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Her: I feel like you don’t respect me very much when you mock my cooking in front of your parents. Him: What are you talking about? It was just a joke. You know they’re crazy about you, and so am I. You’re being hypersensitive. She’s asserting a desire, but doing so in a subtle, easy-to-ignore manner. His response misses the point entirely. Here’s
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one source of friction between men and women is so common it has its own name: the retreat-pursuit pattern. It works like this. Imagine some miscellaneous bit of tension arises in a relationship. One partner (usually the man) wants to escape the discomfort of talking about it. We’ll call this person the retreater. The other partner (usually the wom
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Bitterness and resentment are exceedingly difficult to overcome in a relationship. Once we lose respect for each other, it’s often game over.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
This creates another fundamental difference women and men struggle to understand about each other. Women seem to have more of an ability (or maybe it’s desire) to feel connected to loved ones, even in their absence. Men generally have more of an out-of-sight-out-of-mind approach.