The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
A common childhood experience that affects adult relationships is known as “parentification.” That’s when a child is expected to fulfill a parental role within the family. It can be instrumental in nature, like requiring children to provide actual care of siblings or adults. It can also be emotional in nature, like when a child is responsible for
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Don’t be proud about asking her whether she needs a fixer or a listener. Smart people ask questions.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Men who are highly agreeable (which is not the same as “nice”) make less money and are less frequently considered for advancement than men of low agreeableness (Judge, Livingston, and Hurst 2012).
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
As Benenson points out, men “spontaneously organize their social lives so that they are prepared to fight wars,” and “the ingredients that facilitate successful warfare can be transferred to many other types of group activities.” According to the good doctor, boys begin spontaneously organizing themselves into hierarchical groups by age five.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Luckily, this breed of uncertainty is simple to reduce. It’s not always easy, but the recipe is straightforward: know where you came from, where you’re going, and what gets you out of bed each morning.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Women aren’t ruling out nice guys, they’re ruling out unassertive guys who show an overly compromising nature that suggests they’re unwilling to defend what matters. If a sense of safety is something a woman seeks in a man, you can’t blame her for relegating to the friend zone any man who doesn’t openly define and defend his own values.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Good relationships involve mutual growth. They don’t involve dragging your partner kicking and screaming toward the person you hope she can be.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
That’s a lot to look for on the first few dates. Let’s narrow it down to five non-negotiable, must-have emotional skills that any wife or girlfriend should possess. Insight Intellectual nuance Resilience Internalization Self-maintenance
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
The experience of living with an internalizer is a dream. I say it from personal experience. Problems get solved and life moves forward. Don’t settle for anything less.