There’s a lot of conventional wisdom out there telling you to “trust yourself,” to “go with your gut,” and all sorts of other pleasant-sounding clichés. But perhaps the answer is to trust yourself less. After all, if our hearts and minds are so unreliable, maybe we should be questioning our own intentions and motivations more. If we’re all wrong,

The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.

embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don’t know.

“What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?” Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

We are defined by what we choose to

The third level is our personal values: Why do I consider this to be success/failure? How am I choosing to measure myself? By what standard am I judging myself and everyone around me?

and are not, we cannot overcome our avoidance and anxiety. We cannot change.

when a person has no problems, the mind automatically finds a way to invent some.

Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any