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The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy
Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique
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questions if love is limited and if it can only restricted to a couple
capacity to love more people
love does not diminish other love
no ranking or comparing people/ relationships
about individual connections
Each relationship is independent, and a relationship between autonomous individuals.
Love and respect instead of entitlement
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respecting others`independence and self-determination
not entitled to command and control a partner
enganging without stepping over boundaries and personal beliefs
integrity (Unverletzlichkeitkeit) over compromises
no entitlement and demands to make sure a relationship is truly mutual (wechselseitig)
Customize your commitments
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joining together
constructing a life together, raising children, owning a house or growing together through thick and thin
its about designing your own commitments and freeing from norms
Start from scratch and be explicit about what kind of commitments you want to make with other people!
Trust is better
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trust, that your partner does not wish to hurt you (no distrustful approach)
no search for constant validation
support and quickly forgive withdrawing (Zurückhaltung)
chances to talk, explain, see you and be responsible in the relationship
Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you
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normative system dictates what real love is
find escapes to questions and problematic norms
don’t let fear drive your relationships
Find your core set of relationship values
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asking yourself about your wishes, boundaries and expectations
no special rules
Build for the lovely unexpected
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free through being spontaneous
wish to meet and explore each other
no duties, demands and disappointment
Fake it til’ you make it
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how would you like to see yourself act?
find simple guidelines for yourself
support & talk to each othereach
never reproach yourself (mach dir niemals vorwürfe)
Change through communication
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communication is nessescary to deviate from the norm
conversations at the heart, not only to solve problems
Ask each other about stuff, and be explicit!