The Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships (Toltec Wisdom Series)

There is yet another kind of releasing that doesn't get much press in self-help books and circles, and we'd like to draw your attention to it. This special type of release can be summed up in this morning greeting: “Good morning, my love, who are you today?” Now you may be saying to yourself, “Well, that's an odd question to ask! How does that help

Vent, Advice, Share Here is a simple game for couples that can help you know when to listen, speak, or be silent. You will be creating a signal so that you and your partner know the goal of the conversation. Start by stating your intention—vent, advice, or share—so your partner knows what's coming: Vent: If one of us needs to vent and express our f

One of the most important ways you can engender freedom in a relationship is to encourage your partner to do what they really want to do in any given situation, rather than asking them to do what you may want them to do. You can start simple here. For instance, “do you want to attend a movie with me, or would you rather go out with your friends?” “

We know that being vulnerable is not easy, and yet the results of bringing that intent into our communication with our partner are amazing. It touches their softness and allows them to meet us in a place that, as the poet Rumi says, “is beyond right or wrong.” The field of vulnerability makes deep communication possible.

Every time you say no to someone else you are also saying yes to yourself. Eventually you'll find that there is no difference between sharing or receiving a yes or a no; they are both simply responses that you can give or receive openheartedly. It doesn't mean that you want to say no necessarily, because you love your partner and want them to be ha

However, we have found that vulnerability's bark is much worse that its bite. That is, the voice in your head will defend to the death your right and responsibility to wear a protective suit of armor—“You can't tell them that!” it will shout—but once you muster the courage to lay aside that armor, you will very quickly see the gifts of remaining op

To show up. To be present. To listen. To be open-minded. To be willing to grow. To be kind. To be loving. To do our best. To help each other with mutual respect.

We may not choose our circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them.

Past regrets are one of the biggest sources of fuel for our victim nature. As we work to limit the influence of our victim, it's a good practice to call to mind any past events or decisions you made that you now regret. The process of reframing these “bad” moments can be very helpful in releasing your victim and committing to yourself.