The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

Unaware Threes are social chameleons. As you can imagine, however, their ability to create and project the image to make the sale or get the girl or guy can leave them wondering who their authentic self is.

Like “hungry ghosts,” Sevens cope with their inner tumult by gorging themselves on interesting ideas, acquiring choice material possessions, jamming their calendars with activities and adventures, fantasizing about a future filled with exciting possibilities, and planning their next great escapade.

“As long as we stay in the dark about how we see the world and the wounds and beliefs that have shaped who we are, we’re prisoners of our history.

Fear of the bad feelings that arise in conflict will trigger denial in a Seven. You might have to light your hair on fire before you get a Seven to face up to the fact that something’s not working. Of course, the pivotal moment comes when Sevens can’t stall having to decide about whether to make a long-term commitment to you or not.

Unfortunately, Sevens have so much trouble remaining in the present moment they never fully enjoy the adventures they’re having because they’re already thinking and planning the next one. SEVENS AS CHILDREN Sevens often describe childhoods filled with tree swings, lazy summer afternoons spent fishing with Uncle Henry, winter days building snow fort

These kids are reflecting both their natural tendencies and the mask they are unconsciously hoping will protect them.

How can I jam as many pleasurable experiences into this moment as possible? Their source of satisfaction is never found within them or in the present moment; it’s always external and in the far-distant future. There’s always something they haven’t tried, something more to do, some new exploit to plan. All this hopped-up behavior is how Sevens diver

Without exception, the relationships of spiritually unevolved Threes suffer because they’re almost all workaholics. They have so many projects running and so many goals to achieve they can’t give their undivided attention to people they love.

they can merge so deeply with the life program and identity of another that they eventually mistake the other’s feelings, opinions, successes and aspirations for their own.

This doesn’t seem like a big deal for Peacemakers, who often grew up feeling like neither their presence nor priorities matter much to others.