The Relationship Handbook

Nothing needs to be “done” about moods. They come and go on their own. The less attention we give them, the better.

Insights are products of the heart, not the head. They involve seeing, not thinking. Being touched by an insight shifts your thinking and your outlook on life so you have a change of heart.

They have already been coping and are tired of it.

Our feelings of humanity are rejuvenated and our spirits rise. The other person gains hope because our spirits have risen from contact with him or her.

When you are in a low mood, don’t make important life decisions. Your thinking is not as sound as it is in a higher state of mind.

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If you maintain your sense of well-being, your partner can make contact with your sense of well-being for support,

With real change, we don’t make it happen. Instead, we notice it after it has happened. This change happens because it doesn’t occur to us to act in the old way.

As I felt secure I started showing behaviors I didn’t know I was capable of. I didn’t know I could enjoy the little things in life, for example. I started noticing flowers, the décor of houses, what people on the street wore and hair styles. Before, I hardly noticed the change in seasons.

It is not the schedule itself that makes them less close; it is the thoughts about the schedule.