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The Queer Art of Fucking Your Friends
As poet Brandon Wint wrote in a much-quoted social media post several years ago, “Not queer like gay; queer like escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness all at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like, and to pursue it.”
Mia Birdsong • How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community
“It’s not singlehood, dear friend, that hurts; it’s not casual sex, the fluidity of our bonds, nor their ephemeral nature that causes pain.” Rather, it’s the way that power operates in relationships. Desire isn’t a spontaneous, apolitical passion; it’s shaped by the world around us, and by what we’ve been taught to value. Romance operates like a ma... See more
Hannah Giorgis • Why Does Romance Now Feel Like Work?
The richest relationships are often those that don’t fit neatly into the preconceived slots we have made for the archetypes we imagine would populate our lives—the friend, the lover, the parent, the sibling, the mentor, the muse. We meet people who belong to no single slot, who figure into multiple categories at different times and in different mag... See more
Maria Popova • Figuring
What drew me so desperately to Haraway at twenty, eager to find a way of being in the world that I could commit to, could follow towards something I wanted that I hadn’t yet (then, or maybe even now) learned to articulate, was her additive lens: her commitment to both/AND, to celebrating a purposeful, pleasurably rigorous way of being. Haraway drea... See more