The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
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The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
we have powerful visceral reactions if we are engaged in a conversation and then the person just walks away without terminating the social interaction. When this happens, our body cries out to tell us that something is wrong. This is a situation that we can’t tolerate—it’s a violation of an expectancy for a social interaction.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
However, the point I am trying to make is that most of the behaviors that we label as social skills are not learned. Rather, most of these behaviors appear to be more an emergent property of our biological state than they are “skills” in social learning.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
We are often aware of our physiological responses, although we may not be aware of the features in the environment that trigger neuroception. These physiological feelings often influence our personal narrative of the experience. Our story has to fit, and sometimes it’s totally irrational: “I like this person/I don’t like this person/This person tre
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Features in the environment that may be comfortable and enjoyable to some may be unsettling and frightening to others.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
When this occurs, how do you get a person out of that loop of defense and justification?
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
We live in a world that has a cognitive bias and assumes that our actions are voluntary. We are confronted with questions related to motivation and outcome.
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That’s a very good question for me, because I always wonder what my responsibility is in my own situation
when there is a down-regulation of muscle tone in the face and head, the middle ear muscles lose their neural tone and become hypersensitive to the low-frequency sounds associated with predator. With this shift in middle ear function, it becomes difficult to extract the meaning of human voice, since it is necessary to hear relatively soft, high-fre
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Perception requires a conscious awareness, while neuroception occurs reflexively without awareness.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
I often like to say that when our nervous system fails us, we use behavior. When our nervous system is detecting a neuroception of danger, risk, or fear, maybe we’re smart enough to navigate out of it as opposed to beating ourselves up and saying, “You have to stay in that environment.” If we’re smart and informed, we listen to our body. If we don’
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the person, due to physiological state change, might be expressing autistic-like behaviors. Rather, they assume motivation for the insensitive behavior of the person walking away.