The Only Thing to Do
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The Only Thing to Do
now. Let’s say that you are wishing you could change yourself. But changing yourself means giving up on, denying, and never again showing the face of “yourself until now,” as if you were sending it to its grave, in effect. Because once you have done that, you will be reborn as your “new self” at last. Now, regardless of how dissatisfied you may be
... See morewe are simply incapable of imagining ourselves on the other side of a profound change, because the present self doing the imagining is the very self that needs to have died in order for the future self being imagined to emerge.
This is why the profoundest changes tend to happen not willed but spawned by fertile despair — the surrender at the rock bo
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