Being in community is romantic in theory—but inconvenient in practice. It requires time, patience, and the willingness to experience discomfort. It asks you to show up even when it’s awkward. To talk through conflict instead of avoiding it. To not just “let them” walk all over your needs or your boundaries for the sake of harmony—but also, to not... See more

Creating spaces that are safe is admirable, and our addiction to safety (I wonder sometimes if it’s more about comfort, lack of conflict, or a desire to create set it and forget it containers) has at times devolved into long periods of agreement setting and developing a list of rules for every possible way of relating to one another, where the

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