The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists

In addition, research has shown that it isn’t good for children to be the top priority in a household. We have a nation filled with children who feel entitled, can’t really manage for themselves, and can’t endure uncomfortable emotions because everything is taken care of for them.

Practicing containment means you are able to rise above the turmoil and find your sanity. (Lerner, 1995)

“Religion draws people who don’t want to go to hell. Spirituality draws people who have already been there.”

Since a narcissist has no boundaries and could not care less about your boundaries, all interactions you have with them have the potential of becoming hideous.

If we’re not careful, we wind up sacrificing our health, our children, and our serenity just to avoid going home to the tirades of a narcissistic partner.

Until you really get to know narcissists, you may think that they’re some of the most charming, compelling people you’ve ever met. They’re fun to be around at parties, are engaging conversationalists, tell amusing stories, and give their opinion on everything in the world. They are charming, that is, until you get to know them; that’s when you’re a

However, if you set your boundaries with absolutely no expectation, you will be halfway home. It becomes a matter of validating and reassuring yourself. It’s knowing deep in your soul that if you don’t do this, you will die a very slow and painful emotional death.

But it’s not your blood that a narcissist wants—it’s your emotional energy and your individuality.

The term “mind game” can be used for any strategy or tactic where mental manipulation or intimidation of another person is a goal.