Social gardening describes the art of deliberately creating a high-quality, genuinely good-fit social circle; a long-term process requiring courage, leadership, polarization through powerful honesty, and strong qualification of potential connections with priority given to self-respect.

Powerful honesty is where you describe only your inner experience,

How you describe yourself while you’re drunk, high, or otherwise disinhibited probably gives you clues as to how much you usually hold back while sober.

The Prosperous Coach by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin.

Do you demand reciprocation from others, despite already secretly receiving the juicy reward of pride and satisfaction from within yourself?

I used the fear of being seen as sexually inappropriate as an excuse to passively force women into being the leader.

you will start looking forward to expressing yourself boldly and acting courageously. That’s when true bravery kicks in: when getting scared becomes fun.

Disapproval is not a problem to be solved.

Giving advice that no one asked for is nothing short of being judgmental.