The fear of a cold approach never goes away. It’s hardwired into your brain. Confidence is not the objective. Competence is.

Compliment her style, her energy, her poise, or something unique about her outfit that she chose. Don’t be that guy who is constantly complimenting girls on their necklaces. Learn to notice things. Try giving her a compliment followed by a screening question. Try using constructive criticism after making the compliment. This is a powerful way to ne

Some examples of IOIs: She asks you for your name. She touches you. When you say, “Hands off the merchandise,” she touches you again. When you grab her hands and hold them, she holds back. She laughs at all your humorous remarks—and the ones that aren’t funny as well. When you ask her to bite your neck, she does.

THE M3 MODEL Only after you attract can seduction take place. However, before a woman who is attracted to you will be seduced, there is one additional crucial stage: You must build comfort . (Chapters 8 and 9 describe the comfort and seduction phases of the Mystery Method.)

Kino and kissing are comfort builders, not seduction. If you go too far into seduction before you have enough comfort, you’ll feel like a great player at the time, but you won’t get the girl when (1) your fool’s mate backfires and (2) she experiences buyer’s remorse the next day.

A Venusian artist goes into the field night after night primarily to improve his calibration and to internalize his skill set. You’re not trying to “get this one girl” or even “get laid tonight.” Rather, you practice with the long-term goal of having a powerful social skill set in the future, one you may confidently turn on in times of need. When y

the society around us, at first glance, appears very chaotic. But when you look at all other human beings as beautiful, elegant biological machines embedded with sophisticated behavioral systems designed to align with others to maximize their chances for survival and replication, the task of understanding humanity and your place in it becomes surmo

it’s important that the frame you convey in those assumptions is one where she wants you and is chasing after you, whereas you are the one with higher value, you are the one who decides if you want to continue with her, and you are screening her to make sure she qualifies herself to you. If she is trying to embed DHV spikes into her stories, she is

If she perceives that you are trying to impress her with your money, though, she will then lose attraction. This is because only lower-value people try to impress—such behavior is considered DLV. If you are trying to impress, you must be of lower status and thus unattractive.