You need to reframe your past in light of your sensitivity, especially those events that have reduced your self-confidence.

The point is that the differences are not nearly as great as each sex imagines, but let’s face it: the “strangeness” will be more intense for HSPs, with our tendency to process everything deeply, imagine vividly, and sense others’ feelings—in this case including the anger and suffering of the other gender. With all these reasons for tension,

HSPS AND BOREDOM IN RELATIONSHIPS

HSPs are that 15 to 20 percent of the human population born with a nervous system genetically designed to be more sensitive to subtleties, more prone to deep reflection on inner experience, and therefore inevitably more easily overwhelmed by outer events.

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For example, research shows with perfect consistency that people in relationships are happier when women and men behave in what in the past has been seen as a traditionally “feminine” way—that is, warm, nurturing, emotionally expressive, and eager to discuss the relationship.

When mothers overprotect sensitive girls, these girls grow up feeling they will always need this kind of overprotection—later a man’s protection—and gladly give up their authority for it. Sensitive sons, loved less by their mothers, grow up expecting to be loved less by everyone unless they can somehow hide their sensitivity.

The Research on Depth of Processing Depth of processing is the key to sensitivity, and the most difficult to actually observe or ask questions about. One way it shows up is that HSPs simply seem to have thought through all aspects of a subject, especially a decision they must make, from choosing the flavor of ice cream they want to their thoughts

All HSPs, men or women, are more aware of what other people are feeling, what they want and need. Thanks to your spontaneous deep processing, you also can sense what will happen if others don’t receive what they need—they may suffer, fail at what they want to do, become angry with you, feel disappointed with you. And being more sensitive, when they