The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching

To seek for refuge means to look for a place like that that is safe, a place we can rely on.

Mindfulness is the energy that allows us to recognize our habit energy and prevent it from dominating us.

“Investigation of dharmas” (dharma-pravichaya) is one of the Seven Factors of Awakening (bodhyanga).6 When observing dharmas, five kinds of meditation can help us calm our minds: (1) counting the breath, (2) observing interdependent arising, (3) observing impurity, (4) observing with love and compassion,7 and (5) observing the different realms.

That is an example of love without understanding. Your intention is good, but you don’t have the correct understanding.

The second function of shamatha is calming.

If our love does not bring joy to both of us, it is not true love.

“Five Remembrances” every day: (1) I am of the nature to grow old. There is no way to escape growing old. (2) I am of the nature to have ill-health. There is no way to escape having ill-health. (3) I am of the nature to die. There is no way to escape death. (4) All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way

The Five Mindfulness Trainings3 can help very much.

But we do not need to suffer to remove suffering from another person.