But I believe when we practice disabled love with curiosity about each other, we can build relationships that are more likely to withstand the bumps. There is room for crip bitterness and complexity, for coming back together after not speaking for years, for moving in and out of contact with the seasons of our lives. Maybe even for forgiveness, for

“Our struggle is also a struggle of memory against forgetting.” This is our disabled futurist struggle now too.

Ableism robs us of our ability to see disabled possibilities, even ones that might be relatively small.

Below are some of the strategies I tried, and that I’ve witnessed other disabled writers doing:

There are many definitions of codependency, but it’s a term originally created to describe the behavior of family members of people with alcoholism or addiction who often feel like their attempts to support their loved one end up making things worse for both of them.

“We were maybe not going to save the world, but we were going to save each other.” That hit me in the heart. There’s been so many times

A friend of mine whose sick is like mine told me a piece of secret crip advice that would shape my next decade and a half of work: people like us, who had peaks and valleys of energy, we couldn’t work steady jobs where you had to show up, on time, the same time every day, and “sickness” was limited to an occasional cold—we’d just get fired. But we

Socioemotional skills to sharpen so the women & femme organizers in your life don’t have to do everything:

Best practices for good ASL/CART access for online events: The Revolution Must Be Accessible document from HEARD.78 If you look at one resource on this list about online access, it should be this one!